Dear Everyone…

malaise
məˈlāz/

A general feeling of discomfort, illness, or uneasiness whose exact cause is difficult to identify.

“a society afflicted by a deep cultural malaise”

Dear everyone,

A couple of weeks ago I had to go to the Doctors because I was having dizzying chest pains… I thought – Am I dying?… I joke but after a quick Google I realised it wasn’t a good thing. The Doctor was really helpful and explained that it was a physical reaction to stress… the pains started the day after Brexit.

Being completely self centred for a moment.. I genuinely thought I was struggling an abnormal amount with the state of the world at the moment. As an example I started weeping uncontrollably on the tube the morning after the most recent attack in Nice at the thought of those children who were never going to grow up. For every sad and awful thing I’ve read in the news over the years about suicide bombs, racist abuse and preventable deaths across the world – it’s struck a chord but rarely does it make me blub in public.

Then I read an article about the spike in people seeking professional help for depression, excessive drinking and reckless behaviour post-Brexit because they had what I can only describe as Reality Malaise – they want to escape or they are struggling with it. I know there have always been horrendous things going on all over the world which go completely and utterly unreported in our News but it just seems to be snowballing recently and I feel like life is getting a bit out of control. I think Brexit was just the cherry that tipped that ice-cream over the edge, I’ve not felt easy with the world for quite a long time but I just couldn’t put my finger on what was wrong. I think I’m desperately saddened and disappointed by human behaviour.

Until yesterday I felt like Bridget Jones  turning up to the party and no one told me it wasn’t fancy dress – was I weird for giving so many shits? Why was everything having such a big impact on my daily life… let’s be honest in this day and age we are used to zoning out of the news distracting ourselves with Game of Thrones or Pokemon.

Then I realised.. we are never alone.

So to everyone else out there despairing at the state of the world, the inequality, the injustice, the atrocities, the economy, the future… to you I say, you’re not alone. Please enough with the racism, xenophobia, killing each other and downright disregard for people’s humanity.

Dear Everyone, I love you x

8 Comments

  1. July 17, 2016 / 9:54 pm

    Hear hear to this! I cannot imagine what Brexit must feel like being in the midst of it, but truly empathize with you. Climate change has been weighing heavily on me lately after reading books like Naomi Klein’s This Changes Everything. I hope we can find the strength to band together instead of continuing to fall prey to the weak indulgence of otherism.

    • Lisette @ Spoke + Co
      July 17, 2016 / 10:03 pm

      Jess – this is literally the best comment I’ve ever received. I’m now well and truly hooked on your site… I wish you lived in London I feel like you’d be great to have coffee with xx

  2. July 17, 2016 / 10:18 pm

    Thanks so much for writing this. I’ve been feeling out of sorts lately, and just couldn’t quite put it into words, and I’ve felt ridiculous for not feeling like we should carry on as usual after all that’s happened of late. But seeing everyone talking about it on blogs and social media is great, it definitely feels like there’s an online community trying to share the love.

  3. July 17, 2016 / 11:05 pm

    Wow, thank you for writing this. I’ve been feeling so overwhelmed by recent events, wondering how we can possibly cope with any more horrifying news – it really does feel like it’s snowballing, as you said. It’s so important to remember we aren’t alone and there is hope in our togetherness. Thanks for sharing your feelings on this, it’s just what I needed to read tonight!

  4. July 18, 2016 / 8:22 pm

    Perfect piece, the world has been getting a bit scary and depressing. I zoning out with some trashy tv
    Lauren
    livinginaboxx | bloglovin

  5. July 27, 2016 / 9:48 pm

    Hi Lisette,
    Your words resonate with my own feelings, I just don’t think I would ever be able to write it down so eloquently, which is why I sometimes feel so overwhelmed with it all. Just like you said of course there are others out there that are on the same ‘mind’ paths as ourselves, but sometimes you do forget and feel all alone with your thoughts (well I do) So thanks for sharing your thoughts 🙂 x

    • Lisette @ Spoke + Co
      July 27, 2016 / 11:58 pm

      Hi Suzi
      It’s so important in troubling times to remember we are not alone we really are all in this together!
      I’m totally with you on this one giiirl 😉
      L x

  6. August 8, 2016 / 5:35 pm

    Oh Lisette!

    You care. That is truly nothing to be ashamed of. It has taken me quite some time to realise – as someone who also cares a great deal about everyone and everything – that you should never apologise for giving a shit, or for being compassionate. I don’t like to malign our generation; but it does seem to be quite the cool thing of late to have a very cynical attitude toward almost everything and merely raise an eyebrow sardonically when bad things happen. I’ll never be the sort of person who can do that. People who don’t seem to care a great deal about any tragedy which doesn’t affect them directly never seem to feel the need to justify their feelings, so we shouldn’t either! We’re all people and we all cope in different ways. Feel your feelings, do what you have to – I’m ashamed to admit it took me so long to really understand that my feelings are as important as anyone else’s.

    This was beautifully written, Lisette. Thank you for sharing this! I apologise if you’re about to receive a glut of comments from me – I’ve been away from blogging for a while and currently catching up on what I’ve missed; a great deal it seems!