I get called Sassy at work on a pretty regular basis by male colleagues, yet I’ve never once been called Sassy by a female co-worker. For the longest time I’ve honestly thought nothing of it – it normally came as a result of me being straight talking. What I was saying was no different from any of my male counterparts but it was classified differently.
When I’m called Sassy at work it’s not meant in a ‘oh you being all BEYONCE’ it’s meant more in a way of ‘I feel uncomfortable with what/ how you’re saying something’. For the longest time I felt like it was my problem, like it was something I was doing ‘wrong’ and then I realised in a meeting with a female VP that no one would ever describe her as Sassy to her face because it’s demeaning.
I know Sassy technically is defined as cheeky, bold, insolent – but in the work place this isn’t how it comes across. It reminds me of the campaign a few years ago about girls being called ‘bossy’ from childhood. Being called Sassy makes me feel like I’m being difficult, unreasonable and overtly girly when in actual fact I’m trying to be more vocal following a performance review I had in 2016. I was told I was ‘too quiet’ – read: ‘not vocal enough’ so from then on I’ve had to shout a little louder to be heard. I’m glad of it, I feel more confident now but I don’t want my opinions to be dismissed as ‘Sassy’ because I only say something when I have something worthwhile to say. So please don’t call me sassy… even if I am because it makes me feel like my opinion isn’t valid.
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