I’ve read many articles over the years around imposter syndrome and it’s impact particularly on 25-30 year old women. It’s something I’m all too familiar with – I’ve worked hard my whole life but there’s always a nagging little voice in the back of my mind that says ‘they’ll find out you’re not cool/smart/professional’. I wanted to share a little about what I’ve read and my thoughts on imposter syndrome (and share these amazing cropped frayed hem jeans from the New Look petite section but that’s by-the-by)
What do I have in common with Emma Watson, Sheryl Sandberg, Dr. Chan, Chief of the World Health Organization, Tina Fey, Kate Winslet and Maya Angelou? I sit in meetings feeling like I don’t deserve to be there – I know fundamentally that I went through the same rigorous interview process, I worked hard to get the grades and I still work hard day in and day out to improve myself. If you’re someone who feels self doubt – know you’re not alone – paper after paper comes out trying to understand the phenomenon of imposter syndrome and why it disproportionately impacts women. I’ve been struggling with this for about 5 years now so I thought I’d share some things I’ve found useful to help me tackle it.
- Accept Success: Good fortune may have at some point contributed to where you are but there is absolutely no way you could’ve gotten where you are without YOU.
- Comparison is the thief of joy: A saying from a wise man (Teddy Roosevelt) couldn’t ring truer – it’s a big ask because it’s human nature to compare yourself to people you went to school with, colleagues, friends. The moment you let this go and focus on where you are you will feel infinitely lighter
- Recognise and Verbalise: Learn to identify these feelings as Imposter Syndrome and say it out loud – this immediately makes the reality seem less daunting
- Get Over Yourself: Sounds like an off piece of advice given the subject but part of Imposter Syndrome is the feeling that you’ll be ‘found out’. Accept that for the most part your colleagues don’t sit around thinking about you – if you do your job they will value you. If you don’t then it’s not imposter syndrome it’s self awareness that you could be doing a better job.
Anyways enough of the preaching – let’s take a moment to appreciate the beauty of these jeans. So much so that I bought two pairs of them so that if one pair (god forbid) breaks then I’m safe with the second pair. Being 5ft2 has meant that finding some cropped/ kick flare style jeans with my stumpy legs hasn’t been easy – I was introduced to New Look petite jeans by fellow petite lady Chloe and I’m totally converted.