Maison MLM Dress and why comparison is in our DNA

Masison MLM Label Off the Shoulder Dress, a garden centre and some pastries – that’s what got me through this weekend. When I’m feeling really shitty these are just a few things which cheer me up. You wouldn’t know that an hour before these pictures were taking I was hysterically blubbing in the street in entirely different clothes.

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To get myself out of the funk I was in on Sunday morning I put on my favourite dress, ate some tasty food and surrounded myself with plants. Even on the darkest day there will always be something seemingly small and insignificant that will make you happier. For me… it’s food, clothes that makes me smile and most of all greenery. Ironing doesn’t make me happy… so I just though f**k it… I’m not ironing this.

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succulents
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This weekend I let the world get the best of me. I let myself get bogged down by work, by comparison, by self esteem, by city life and as a result I burst into uncontrollable tears… in public. I was then ushered back into the house for a cup of tea, a tissue and a hug. As many of you will understand working a full time job is stressful at the best of time, when you add in the inevitable pressure of creating content on top it can be pretty difficult not to compare yourself.

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Comparison is the thief of joy. – Theodore Roosevelt

There have been many psychological studies done on the impact of comparison – it’s a topic I often see cropping up in the blogging world. Social comparison is something which has realistically been around for 540 million years. Yes… comparison is totally normal. We also aren’t the only species to react when we feel inadequate or that our lives don’t live up to expectation. Apes have been known to react violently when they know that another ape is enjoying a better quality of life!  It is as engrained in our DNA in the same way as fight or flight – comparison is a survival instinct. We definitely shouldn’t be beating ourselves up about it.

These are some really interesting articles on social comparison in modern day:

Facebook Makes Us Sad

The Unexpected Way That Technology Makes Us Unhappy

If You Want To Be Happy…

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4 Comments

  1. August 16, 2016 / 10:29 pm

    Sometimes life chucks stuff at us that makes us feel totally shit for no reason other than what’s going on in our own minds <3

    Keep your chin up the dark times will clear I'm sure

    Mel ★ meleaglestone.co.uk

    • Lisette @ Spoke + Co
      August 17, 2016 / 7:31 pm

      Thanks Mel you absolute beaut xx

  2. August 17, 2016 / 6:37 pm

    I find your lack of caring about ironing incredibly inspiring 🙂 I hope this week is a little happier for you. No matter how much you compare yourself to others, or down you get – just remember that you have seriously cool hair and you’re slaying Instagram.

    alicered.co.uk

    • Lisette @ Spoke + Co
      August 17, 2016 / 7:31 pm

      This comment made me smile so much. Your photography is truly inspirational xxx